In this week’s podcast I tell the story of how once upon a time in a club football game, an opponent looked me in the eye, deliberately twisted one of my fingers and uttered the words in the title of this blog to me.
I brought it up because in my research for the show, I had found an old tweet written by this week’s guest – Mabel Chah – in which she detailed a list of pretty nasty names which she had been called over the years – all worse than my story, and in a less heated environment than a football pitch.
By the way what a picture – credit to Eddie Lee.
And then today I came across this quote from author and speaker Jim Rohn – thanks to James Clear for sending it my way.
“Let’s face it … people and events are going to continue to both hurt and disappoint you. Among the people will be those you most love, as well as those you least know. Seldom is it their intent to purposely hurt you, but rather, a variety of situations mostly beyond your control will cause them to act, speak, or think in ways which can have an adverse effect upon you, your present feelings and emotions, and the way your life upholds. It has been this way through six thousand years of recorded history, and your hurt or grief is not the first time a human has been deeply hurt by the inappropriate actions of another.
The only way to avoid being touched by life––the good as well as the bad––is to withdraw from society, and even then you will disappoint yourself, and your imagining about what is going on out there will haunt you and hurt you. Knowing this, there is but one solution that will support you when people and events hurt you, and that is to learn to work harder on your personal growth than anything else. Since you cannot control the weather, or the traffic, or the one you love, or your neighbours, or your boss, then you must learn to control you … the one whose response to the difficulties of life really counts.”
And it reminded me of Mabel, and her attitude to the setbacks she has encountered in her life. She is a force of nature. It’s a bit different to most of the other episodes to those we have produced so far, but it was great to chat and play music with Mabel, and it’s getting a great reaction so far.