It used to mean a lot when you wished somebody happy birthday. It meant you had remembered.


Now all it means is that you have been reminded.

And when people are reminded to do something nice, more of them do it. And it’s lovely. But it’s harder to remember than be reminded.

Facebook doesn’t tell you that you haven’t kept a promise to visit a friend, or that you have forgotten about that person who you told yourself you would check on in a month’s time. But that doesn’t mean you can’t remember to do so.

And if you do, it will mean a lot.







I'm Kieran and I play piano. Actually I do a bit more than just playing - I teach others how to play, and I write music, arrange it and host/produce shows.

One thought on “Birthdays

  1. While I don’t advocate that we SHOULD a rely on Facebook for this, it COULD give us more of a nudge to think of others.

    What if fb noticed that you hadn’t sent a friend a note in messenger for 2 weeks and asked you if wanted to reach out?

    But also – what if fb encouraged us to be ‘more than’, instead of training us to be ‘less than’?

    What if fb refused to post a message that simply says HBD, and prompted you with “dude, if their birthday is important enough to acknowledge, at least do it with actual words” or pointed out “hey – you’ve sent that same message to five people now…would it kill you to treat your so-called friends like real unique people?”

    That would make me wake up. And smile.

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